Even the best kid is known to have tantrums and outbursts. Mine are not immune to them, that’s for sure. C’mon. They are my kids. It’s not uncommon for one of them to be screaming about something at least once during the day. And because as parents we can’t just deal with these things the way Isla did when Ava was having this tantrum…
As a mom of four, I’ll be one of the first to admit my parenting is not perfect. That’s why I am glad I was sent The Whole-Brain Child Workbook, written by neuropsychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and brain-based parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.. This book offers “12 easy to remember “whole-brain” strategies (for example: Name It to Tame It, Engage Don’t Enrage, Move It Or Lose It), with dozens of exercises and activities that address sibling conflict, homework or screen time battles, meltdowns, tantrums, sulking, and other issues every parent faces” (information provided by PR By the Book). These 12 strategies are designed to help you parent without losing it – something I am grateful for.
In reading the book and working through the exercises, I am glad to see that Greg and I are each already engaging in whole-brain ways to deal with tantrums and outbursts. For instance, he’s really good at “the family fun factor” and trying to use the power of playfulness to his advantage without being good cop/bad cop. For me, I like to think I’ve got “the remote of the mind” down pretty good – reminding the kids of things that happened in the past and how it made them feel but then giving them the ‘fast forward’ version of what will happen next if they don’t calm down and move on.
With ten other strategies in the workbook (a companion to their book The Whole-Brain Child), parents are armed with strategies that should work on any tantrum or outburst. Of course, not every kid is going to respond the same, nor is every strategy going to work for every parent. Just giving this book a chance is a worthwhile exercise as a parent.
If you’re interested in a copy, it is available for $24.99 at wholebrainchildworkbook.com. You’ll want a clear and open mind as well as a pen ready when you read this book. It’s not necessarily one for the beach, although I do recommend it for any parent, not just the ones who feel like they wish they could read their kids’ minds.