Be Brave. Be Kind. Be Fabulous.

This year’s Pittsburgh Pride theme is “Be Brave”. The company I work for has embraced the “Be Kind” Core Value to embrace differences through our “Proud” organization. Evan is always urging us to “Be Fabulous”.

These three ways to “Be” are perfect for describing our experience at the 2014 Pittsburgh Pride parade.


We want the kids to know that they should not be afraid to be themselves. Whatever that might be. We want them to know that we should always be kind and caring toward others. And through it all, to be fabulous.


Our kids will not that love wins. We have chosen to teach our kids that hate will not be part of their lives. That they will always stand up for diversity and difference. That they will simply love.


And that, my friends, is why they were brave, kind, and fabulous at Pittsburgh Pride Parade 2014 (and will continue to represent as allies for love).



Ally and I Know It

Following BlogHer 13, I am hoping to be more open and honest with my posts. A few months ago, after Pride, I chose to write this post and put it up on my BlogHer profile instead of here “in public”. Several people read it over there, but I feel compelled to write it here, too.

Would you believe that I had to spend ten minutes of my busy day today writing a Facebook message to an acquaintance about why I’m an ally of the LGBTQ community. Why did I do it? Because I was sent a message asking if my sister-in-law was gay and questioning my (Christian) faith. Sorry, folks, but I’m an Ally and I know it.

You’d wonder why I am letting this go any further, moving beyond the message and on to the internet. I am doing it because I am not sure I am really living in 2013 anymore. (Am I?) Surely I cannot be living in a world where I have to defend posting photos of attending (gay) Pride Pittsburgh with my husband, kids, friend, and sister-in-law while at the same time being a Christian.

As I explained in my message, I was raised a daughter of a United Methodist minister. I believe in Jesus, and I am 100% certain the Bible says that the only person who will judge me is God Himself. I shouldn’t have to answer to other’s questions about my faith or why I would support and love someone who doesn’t believe in what other Christians do. But I have to ask—is judging, discluding, and attacking others a good Christian thing to do? Not in my mind.

In my thoughts, I explained that I didn’t really see it as any different from someone supporting interracial marriage. Not that many years ago, people saw what love Greg and I have as a sin. Knowing the fight and how far we’ve come, and how far we’ve yet to come, I can’t help but hope my loved ones will have what we have one day soon.

Tonight, I stand proud to be an Ally. I am proud that I stood beside my sister-in-law and followed my church’s beliefs of ‘Open Hearts, Open Minds, and Open Doors’. I am proud for those who fight for equality. I am going to continue to support and to raise children who love all, without walls, blind to hate. That’s what Allies do.

And if that means posting photos like this on my Facebook wall, my private “you don’t have to see my posts or be my friend” wall? That’s what that means. I’m an Ally and I know it. 

'lil Burghers Evan an LGBTQ Ally and Proud

Creepy Kid and ScareHouse Bunny

Yesterday at Pride, my creepy kid and ScareHouse Bunny had a moment.

creepy kid and ScareHouse Bunny

Might I remind you that this kid doesn’t like costumed characters, especially Santa and the Easter Bunny? Yes, she engaged in the whole, “can I have a photo with ScareHouse Bunny” thing. Yes, she smiled. And yes, she said that “hanging with the Easter Bunny” was one of the most fun moments of Pride (although tomorrow I’ll be sharing a handful of gems from her).

Baby brother on the other hand? Keep him away from ScareHouse Bunny, thank you very much.



Last weekend, the ‘lil Burghers family got to march in the Pittsburgh Pride parade with my work. We marched behind a color guard who was playing Kelly Clarkson’s “Stronger”. I don’t know if it was the music, the heat, the people who came out in support, or what, but I had tears in my eyes the whole parade.

We are proud to be supporters of our friends and family on so many levels, and this was just one chance for us to show our love and support.