There has been something crawling under my skin ever since I realized how much I loved kids (this was way back before I had any of my own). That something was the “under the surface”, back biting, mom-petitions that seemed to go on as I watched interactions between moms. There are moms (and dads) out there who think their way of parenting is the right and only way to parents. Guess what? They are wrong.
When you become a parent, you quickly find out that the books, advice, and “practice” with other kids couldn’t prepare you for the journey you have begun to embark on. You find yourself testing new waters, figuring out what is right for you and your family.
You may even be tempted to compare your family to another family similar to (or in some cases VERY different from) yours. Stop right there. It’s not worth it. Your family is unique, your parenting style is unique.
This weekend, I decided to take “The Mom Pledge”. I want to be a supportive mom, offering help when asked, but understanding that what worked for me won’t be what’s right for another mom. I want to chose relationships with parents who are not worried because their daughter is younger than mine but isn’t meeting milestones at the exact same moment that A is or that the their son is older than E but did it so much better. The pledge will help me to remember this:
The Mom Pledge
I am a proud Mommy Blogger. I will conduct myself with integrity in all my blogging activities. I can lead by example.
I pledge to treat my fellow moms with respect. I will acknowledge that there is no one, “right” way to be a good Mom. Each woman makes the choices best for her family.
I believe a healthy dialogue on important issues is a good thing. I will welcome differing opinions when offered in a respectful, non-judgmental manner. And will treat those who do so in kind.
I stand up against online bullying. My blog is my space. I will not tolerate comments that are rude, condescending or disrespectful.
I refuse to give those who attack a platform. I will remove their remarks from my blog with no mention or response. I can take control.
I want to see moms work together to build one another up, not tear each other down. Words can be used as weapons. I will not engage in that behavior.
I affirm that we are a community. As a member, I will strive to foster goodwill among moms. Together, we can make a difference.
Keep me honest. Fellow moms, bloggers or not, I urge you to take The Mom Pledge. Let’s be a team of moms who truly work together–some many parts of life are competitions, but being a mom doesn’t have to be one of those.
What do you say? Are you with me?
(If you have Twitter, you can follow @TheMomPledge for links to other moms–great support source!)